Question: what would you do to help stop bullying? Or is this a fight that can never be won?
Oh my goodness, Smithee… that’s an excellent question. I had to think a minute to get my feelings together on it (as someone who was bullied myself much of my school years… I suppose we all were unless we were the ones doing the bullying!)
I think that there is a way that would make it stop, but it would be so very difficult to put into action and make stick. I think the only way to make it stop is to make the bullies get tired of it and “go find something else to do.” And the way they’d get tired of it is if they’re ignored. That’s the way to do it… but like i said, it would be difficult at best.
To ignore bullies, we’d have to build very high self esteem in the people being bullied. (For sake of making points here, I’ll think about school bullying although I know it’s very bad in the adult world, too. ) We have to reinforce in the kids the truth that they are GREAT and what some pathetic self-hating bully says is just to rile them. By responding, they give the bully power. When bullies see someone cowering or being affected, guess what? They get even worse. But… that’s so hard to do.
The kids need to know that they’re NOT what the bully is saying. That they’re beautiful and lovable and that the bully is the one who is feeling bad about his or herself.
I’m talking about verbal bullying here… I realize that sometimes there are physical bullies and no amount of ignoring them is going to make it stop. I have no idea what to do about that kind. Can you think of anything?